Where does the tension come from? I think, in part, it comes from a misunderstanding. I'm concerned that people who haven't adopted or aren't involved in orphan care in a meaningful way perceive those of us who have adopted or are involved in orphan care to be saying something like this, "Look what we've done. Why haven't you done it, too?" When, in reality, we are really just trying to communicate something like this, "Look what God has done for us by adopting us and then leading us through our very own adoption journey so that we can better understand His love for us, see His miraculous ways of providing for us, and experience the joy that He felt when He gave us a name and a family and a home! We don't want you to miss out on this!"
There's a big difference. I think the tension comes when people mistake passion for judgement. Of course people are going to get tired of "the whole adoption thing being shoved down their throats" (yes people, that's a quote) if what they mistakenly hear from us is judgement and self righteousness. And maybe that is the intent of some. But of all the adopting families that I know, none of them have hearts like that. All of the families that I know communicate their passion for orphan care and adoption because: 1. They love orphans. and 2. They want others to experience the blessing of adoption (other families and other orphans). Period. No self righteousness. No judgement. Just genuine desire to communicate what God has done in and with their lives so that others may become open to allowing Him to do the same with their lives. And, of course, so that more children can have families.
If there's one place, one community, one group where people should be able to share their passion for orphan care, it's within the church. May we not let unspoken tension and misunderstood motives get in the way of our God's mission to bring redemption to the life of every single one of his children.
